Easymotion is the only plugin I need to be happy.

Contributing to open source is a big one. Purely personal projects are good, but I’ve found way more people are interested in open source work because it’s ‘more real’ and it shows you can work as part of an organization.

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Just because competition can be suppressed temporarily within a discrete system doesn’t mean it has ceased to exist. Exactly why ideologies that demand the absence of competition will eventually be outcompeted from the outside.

The health of the current system is undenianly declining, absolutely. But competition is eternal and non-optional, so systems that seek to eliminate it are intrinsically doomed.

Well, competition has been going pretty strong for the last four billion years; time will tell.

Yes, exactly! For all the noxious effects of greed, it drives competition which drives evolution.

Even if a utopian communist/anarchist society were able to stabilize on its own, it would inevitably be overcome at some point in the future by a more competitive society that had martially evolved beyond the utopia’s understanding.

Whether its right or wrong has no bearing on the entropy of it.

What a goofy take. “Having trouble with self control? Have you tried having self control?” Obviously there’s something more going on or life would be a whole lot simpler. Sometimes externalizing a decision through a tool like a timer is part of how a person indirectly exerts self control.

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Truly, I scramble six eggs in a go, but six boiled eggs feels like a whole feast somehow.

I just learned that W.E.B. Du Bois pointed this out in 1935 in terms of why poor whites in the Reconstruction-era South preferred to side with the white landowners who exploited them rather than their fellow workers who happened to be black. People would rather feel superior than actually pursue a better life for everyone. It’s come to be called The Wages of Whiteness.

Excellent, I’ll try the $8 option

Exposure therapy can be quite powerful. Let yourself feel upset: don’t be ashamed that your emotions lash out. Let yourself feel, then remind yourself how things aren’t as bad as they feel. Feeling and introspecting rather than suppressing in the face of pain is emotional weight lifting.

There will be times when you lack the emotional strength to exercise, and that’s ok too. Everything in life ebbs and flows, and you can slowly make meaningful progress toward deeper happiness by taking advantage of the flows while showing yourself grace for your human imperfections when things ebb.

A major pillar of self improvement it seems we share is letting go of the expectation that everyone will like you. It’s just as likely to be someone else’s problems that lead them to not gel with you as it is to be your own problems. You have just as much a right to be imperfect as they do, but no amount of self-improvement can change other people’s problems. At any given moment, the world simply is as it is and you can only make choices to navigate the future as best as you are able.

Finding controlled ways to put yourself in a bit of emotional peril can be helpful, like creating a throwaway to try and ernestly engage in a new online community. Put that mask out there as your avatar, knowing that you can always discard it when it ceases to be useful.

At a more advanced level you might go try participating in some public in-person activity, knowing you can exit that community at any time and return to your solitude. Even if in the worst case scenario they did come to ‘hate’ you, that ceases to matter once you leave them behind. They’ll forget you long before you forget them.

Let yourself feel the despair of failure, and then let yourself see how those feelings do nothing to stop you from living and growing. In fact, growing is ultimately impossible without failure. Focus on your successes, and let your past failures be signposts of your improvement.

Of course none of this is easy, but this is a journey that spans your whole life whether you want it to or not. Every time you gather the strength to engage thoughtfully with it (as you have here!), you plant seeds that you will someday get to enjoy the fruits of.

Support structures are key; DM me if you’d ever like to engage more directly in a dialog.

It’s redundant but it still works; doing it that way does not imply they haven’t actually used it.

The networking aspect will likely be the trickiest, but if you’re already interested in administrating a VPS you can absolutely do it.

1. Have an ISP that doesn’t block inbound connections. So far both Comcast and Verizon have been cool to me in that regard.
2. Configure your router to always give your host machine the same internal-network IP address.
3. Configure your router to forward any relevant ports (TCP/80 for insecure HTTP, e.g.) to the internal address you assigned to your host.
4. Go to ifconfig.me or similar to ascertain your public Internet IP address.
5. Buy a domain (Namecheap has been good to me for a decade) and change its A record to point to that address!

Not hard, but not exactly uncomplicated either.

How do you mean in terms of Unreal?

Captures from an Internet Archive sweep of the web. There are so many captures since the domain has been active since the 90s and was part of a great many scans.

Browse the captures for yourself if you like

It’s hilarious! My favorite Bale performance easily. Willem Dafoe is excellent too. I love the whole over-the-top 80s NYC yuppie caricature.

It’s also a scathing nightmare parable about the raw pursuit of wealth and influence.

A million to one of course.

edit: but still, they come!

I can’t interpret your comments in this thread any other way than that you are seeking not help, but validation for your unwillingness to grow.

The idea of help you’re complaining about is quite consistent with good help according to the local lemmyites it seems, and I have to agree. Are you quite sure you’re not minimizing others pain and ignoring context when it’s convenient for you? Just because your pain is real does not mean you are free of responsibility.

This is exactly the kind of thing professional help is ideal for. Let an expert guide you in discovering ways you might change your views and behavior such that your needs are better met. Shaking your fist at the world isn’t going to make you one iota happier, no matter how well justified your anger might be.